a
celebration
Look
what I made!
Is
that a, what is that?
Raspberry
torte cake
My
favorite!
Your
favorite
You
did not have to do that, you know
I
know, I've just been baking a lot anyway, I've gotten really into
baking, so like... I just figured you deserved it! A perfect birthday
cake!
I
can't even believe you remember what my favorite is
I
remember everything
You
always did have a really impressive memory
fuck
yeah. Nothing's changed
nothing's
changed?
Haha
you know what I mean.
I
know. Haha so, um, what has changed?
You
mean, like, big picture?
Yeah
Lots,
man. Lots. I was just saying the other day, I can't even remember
what I thought about in high school... who I was. At every stage, I
feel like I have such a good hold on stuff, really know what's up
know who I am and then a few years later, I can't even imagine what
it was that I was worried about or concerned with or laughing about
even. It's weird.
Hmm,
yeah. Things have been pretty different for me, too.
I
bet.
You
first, though, you first. I wanna know what's going on. I wanna know
who this new person is in front of me if you're soooo different from
your high school version.
Haha,
ya know, I was reading our old Facebook messages the other day.
Oh
yeah?
Yeah,
like ones we sent when we were like freshman in college. Trust me,
you'd think what I've been thinking.. like why was I typing like
that? What was I even talking about? Haha they were really dumb.
Yeah
I think it's safe to say I wasn't the smartest my freshman year of
college.
Think
you were getting pretty crazy up there... seemed mostly out of
boredom from being in the middle of nowhere
You
have no idea
I
think you mentioned in one of your messages that Sasquatch's sister
had a crush on you...
Wow.
Mean.
I'd
say so...
God,
I was an 18 year old boy.
And
I was an 18 year old girl. It seriously feels so long ago, it's
insane. I was a completely different person. Well, ya know, I've said
it quite a bit... but September 21st,
2010 changed the person that I am, the person i've become
I'm,
I'm really sorry
No,
dude. Don't be sorry. I mean, it's crazy to imagine how I would be
different if that day didn't happen, if it didn't mean anything to me
haha
yeah, I mean... me too
God,
of course. So tell me about you, what's going on with you
You
haven't even told me what your'e up to! Just that you've changed,
which like... obviously you're gonna change as you grow up...
I
haven't grown up, I really don't think that... I mean, I guess after
that day, I started to really understand the depth of feeling more,
like once you get to that point... it's easier to understand the
realms and the layers that we all have. And like, when we were in
high school, I always thought that knowing who I was had to rooted in
principle, and sticking to my guns or whatever... but after what
happened and then various other things, falling in love for the first
time, what have you...i realized that it had to be rooted in
experiences. So I realized all the things I hadn't felt, hadn't
experienced. I mean, shit, it has made me such a more insightful
performer! And, just a more insightful person in general, I guess.
It's easier for me to, well maybe not easier, but it's more
comprehensible for me to really sympathize with the world, with
people who have felt equally and surely even huger things than i've
felt. It makes me really realize all the things I'll never feel and
all the ways I can't think about stuff. And that kinda makes me
extremely sad and makes me kinda crave feeling stuff I don't think I
actually would want to feel... which is kinda sick. I dunno, I guess
I always thought I was quirky crazy... but now I guess it's easier to
get really really wrapped up in my thoughts.. not that I think I'm
actually crazy, I dunno... I've definitely learned and changed a
lot.. which has been actually pretty awesome.
So
what are your goals?
My
goals?
Yeah,
you were always such a goal oriented person... I can only assume you
have them still
haha
yeah, I have all sorts of huge goals... I guess I spend most of my
time just working on things that are on my mind these days, smaller
projects that I really do will ultimately come together and kinda...
become my body of work. And who knows what will happen once there is
a body of work, especially if i'm proud of it. I mean... it's so
tempting to read like famous people's wikipedias and be like what
they were this by the time they were 24, I'm not far from 24 holy
shit what am I doing blah blah blah... when it's really like I just
have to do my work and really be okay with my path, ya know?
I
mean, I get it. I can't really, um, relate too much
Oh
my god. I'm so sorry. God all this shit just seems so small and
trivial compared to, like, the big stuff. I guess you know about the
big stuff, don't you?
Well,
yeah, sorta
Teach
me. Man, I find myself so caught up in fucking dumb stuff all the
time, ya know? It's sick and then I all of a sudden take the step
back to big picture it all... and then I just start crying cuz I feel
so stupid and like a dumb fucking blind human.
Don't
do that
What
Don't
call yourself a dumb, blind person. If there's anything I can say,
it's don't bother with that kind of stuff.
What
kind of stuff? God, I just have so many fucking questions. I mean, so
I graduated and moved and now and just trying to do stuff. But like,
what have you been doing? What's happened? Why do you get to
celebrate this birthday with me? How are you? Have you changed?
Of
course I have. Of course.
Tell
me about it! Tell me about it all.
… you
know I can't
Why?
Why can't you?
Come
on. You know I can't.
Please.
Just a little bit. It's been almost four years, I'm sure you have
something to share!
Well
obviously I have things to share... but any answer I give, it's not
gonna do you any good.
What?
How could you possibly say that? All I want is to soak in as much as
humanly possible. I'd give anything to know, just... how you are, how
you've been?
I
mean, I could tell you a lot of things... but you'll already know the
answers
No,
I don't... I mean, of course I've imagined some stuff, but like... I
don't know the answers, I want to hear them from you
If
you hear them from me, that doesn't make them not from you
Don't
say that
Come
on
Please
don't say that, don't say that, come on, just tell me it's clouds and
floating, tell me it's puzzles with answers, tell me it's even harder
than before, tell me you see us, tell me you never see us... just
tell me, tell me
you
know I can't
YES
YOU CAN
No.
No, I can't. Come on.
(crying)
yes you can. Yes you can yes you can.
I
get it, dude. You think it's easy for me to be here?
Sure
You
really think that?
It
can't be that difficult, though, right? Cuz you're not
No,
I'm not
Come
back
I'm
so sorry
At
least have a piece of cake...?
You
really are too thoughtful
Ya
know, I just keep waiting... for these days to not feel like this.
But they're just the annual reminder that even though everything has
changed and I can do whatever it is that I want... that these days
still matter. They still carry the same weight as they did before. No
matter how many years have gone by.
You
should probably stop doing this to yourself.
What?
Throwing
birthday parties? Reading messages... reliving the experience of
knowing me, just to realize...
That
i'm sitting here alone with your birthday cake
You're
not making it any easier on yourself
But
should I? Should I make it easier? Isn't this what I was just saying?
It's like, discounting myself from feeling emotions, isn't it?
Not
if it's a form of masochism, no. You're doing it to yourself.
I
know, but I, I, I just really missed you today
And
I miss you
So
what do we do...
Have
a piece of cake. Go meet up with someone you love. That's probably
the best we got.
That
doesn't really seem like enough.
It
won't seem like enough until you decide it's enough.
Okay.
Okay?
Okay.